“I know they say you can’t go home again. I just had to come back one last time”
In Miranda Lambert’s hit single, “The House That Built Me,” the song’s character takes a stroll back in time by visiting the home of her youth. Her visit home is spurred by a current life struggle, where she feels she has lost touch with herself. Perhaps she has forgotten her purpose or meaning in life.
“I thought if I could touch this place or feel it, this brokenness inside me might start healing”
Visiting the house enables her to recall her joyful childhood. It’s the place where she did her homework, learned to play guitar, and buried her favorite childhood pet. As she wanders through her home of yesteryear, she is flooded with the memories of her innocent youth and the happy days of her past.
Clearly her childhood home represents not only a happy time and place in her life, but also the foundation building of her character. Having lost her way and suffering through hard times, she knows that reconnecting with this period, will help to get her life back on track.
“You leave home, you move on and you do the best you can. I got lost in this old world and forgot who I am”
Sometimes in life, we need to take the time to rediscover ourselves. The need to look to our past may come after a traumatic event, such as a health scare or a breakup, or it may come as a natural part of the aging process. Many people who overcome a traumatic life occurrence, find that they are better off for having gone through it. They feel forever changed, wiser and stronger, because of their survival through hard times.
As life challenges you, it can change your sense of identity. Life may change your definition of relationships, your sense of independence, and even cause you to reassess your life and make necessary changes. Ultimately, it may cause you to look at new opportunties or raise the bar of expectation for yourself and those around you. The struggles and changes you experience in life will unavoidably mold and shape the person you become.
In the end, the constant evolution that we go through as human beings should be celebrated. Without these life events, life would most certainly be predictable and boring. You need the low points to be able to rejoice the highs. You need darkness to appreciate the light. You need rain to enjoy the sunshine.
It is those moments in time that define who you are, what you are made of, and what built you. When you can dig down deep and learn a life lesson—even if it involves a misstep or wrongdoing on your part—then you have truly earned your grit.
“WON'T TAKE NOTHING BUT A MEMORY FROM THE HOUSE THAT BUILT ME.”
At some point in our lives, hopefully we will be able to look back on the memories of a life well-lived. Turning points should stand out as times when you had to undergo change in order to keep moving forward. Either stepping out, or being thrown out, of our comfort zone is when we have the greatest opportunity for growth.
So, when you sit down to record your life story, think about those moments in time, those difficult days—no matter how anguishing they may have been. Those are the moments that define you. Those are the moments that change you. Those are the moments that built you.
What's your life story?